It's been circulating, and I love it. My Alabama boys are doing so great this season-- I am only sad that I can't be there to cheer them on in person. RTR anyway!!!


a little more...

I saw these questions on another blog (Tales of a Short Southern Momma), and going with the theme of a few of my last posts, I thought it would be fun to do. Enjoy!

1. What are your middle names?
Walker (It was Vanessa before we got married) and Christopher.

2. How long have you been together?
We dated for 3 months; we were engaged for 5 months. The whole dating-engagement-wedding was a little under 8 months.

3. How long did you know each other before you started dating?
We knew each other in youth group in middle school and high school and lost touch in college until his senior year and my junior year.

4. Who asked who out?
We are so old school. Of course he asked me out!

5. How old are each of you?
Mat and I are both 23. However, Mat turns 24 on Nov. 6.

6. Did you go to the same school?
No—neighboring town high schools, and I went to The University of Alabama (ROLL TIDE!) and Mat went to the University of Mobile.

7. Are you from the same home town?

8. Who is the smartest?
Mat. Definitely.

9. Who majored in what?
Mat was a Christian studies major and I majored in public relations and political science.

10. Who is the most sensitive?
Me. Hands down.

11. Where is the furthest you two have traveled together as a couple?
Aspen, Colorado. 3 planes.

12. Who has the worst temper?

13. How many children do you want?
An entire village!!! (We want 5, but we will take more if the Lord so wills.)

14. Who does the cooking?
Mat is a great cook, and we used to cook a lot together when we lived in Mobile. Now, I do most of the cooking.

15. Who is more social?
Mat. Or me. Might be both. We are very social together!

16. Who is the neat freak?
Me. No contest!

17. Who is the most stubborn?
Me. No contest!

18. Who wakes up earlier?

19. Where was your first date?
Birmingham, AL.

20. Who has the bigger family?
Mat does. My family is very small…and very close.

21. Do you get flowers often?
Nah. I don’t like them—except daisies!

22. How do you spend the holidays?
Together. Pizza for Christmas Eve—it’s a tradition—and with our families as much as possible. Both our families live within 1 hour of each other, so it’s easy to get to everyone.

23. Who is more jealous?

24. How long did it take to get serious?
About 15 minutes.

25. Who eats more?
Mat. For sure.

26. What do you do for a living?
We are both in seminary, but right now, Mat works at Brooks Brothers and in the president’s office here at Southern. I work at LOFT and baby-sit some, too.

27. Who does the laundry?
Me. Unless I make Mat…which is hardly ever!

28. Who's better with the computer?

29. Who drives when you are together?

30. What is your song?
“All My Life,” by K-C and JoJo
…I am totally kidding. We don’t have a song. And that’s our plan for life.



we've gotten nominated!

Mrs. Jones from A Real Life Wife nominated me for a blog award!

The rules: use only one word, pass along to your favorite bloggers, and tell 'em you did so.

Here we go!!

1. Where is your cell phone? Purse (??)

2. Your hair? Down

3. Your mother? Captivating

4. Your father? Cool

5. Your favorite food? Pasta

6. Your dream last night? Mrs. Jones

7. Your favorite drink? Tea

8. Your dream/goal? Dream-- Motherhood; Goal-- faithfulness

9. What room are you in? Kitchen

10. Your hobby? Photography

11. Your fear? Abandonment

12. Where do you want to be in six years? Mothering

13. Where were you last night? SWI (Seminary Wives Institute)

14. Something that you aren't? Frugal

15. Muffins? Chocolate!

16. Wish list item? Makeup brush

17. Where did you grow up? Sand Mountain (AL)

18. Last thing you did? Eat

19. What are you wearing? LOFT t-shirt

20. Your TV? Flat-screen

21. Your pets? KITTIES!!!

22. Friends? Godly

23. Your life? Blessed

24. Your mood? Motivated

25. Missing someone? Matty

26. Vehicle? JEEP (There's no other)

27. Something you're not wearing? Jacket

28. Your favorite store? LOFT

29. Your favorite color?

30. When was the last time you laughed? At L.O. (my cat)

31. Last time you cried? (Because of a) commerical

32. Your best friend? Matty (husband)

33. One place that I could go over and over? D.C.

34. One person who emails you regularly? SBTS (Southern Seminary)

35. Favorite place to eat? Bento (Tuscaloosa, AL)

I tag:
Mrs. Jones at A Real Life Wife
Lindsey at Thoughts from a Twenty-Something
Jennifer at Tales of a Peanut
Kelly at Kelly's Korner


dr. moore's "where the wild things aren't"

It seems like I talk and write about Dr. Moore a lot. He has though, after all, written one of my all-time favorite non-fiction books. I am so blessed to be able to call him my dean, my vice president for academic administration, my Sunday School teacher, and my pastor.

And here Dr. Moore comes again, writing one of my favorite blog posts of his about one of my all-time favorite children's books, Where the Wild Things Are.

Click the link here to go to his blog and read the post, or just keep scrolling down-- I've cut and pasted the blog entry here on my blog. Dr. Moore's blog is www.russellmoore.com.

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From "Moore to the Point," by Dr. Russell D. Moore, who is the Dean of the School of Theology and Senior Vice-President for Academic Administration at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary. He also serves as a preaching pastor at Highview Baptist Church, where he ministers weekly at the congregation’s Fegenbush location.

"This past Saturday I took my three oldest sons to see the movie Where the Wild Things Are. Some Christians are all exercised about the fact that the movie might be too frightening for children. They’re wrong. The movie is not a great one, but that’s not the reason why. As a matter of fact, Where the Wild Things Are fails because it’s not scary enough for your kids.

And there’s something there Chrisians can learn about children, horror, and the gospel.

From the time my sons were babies I’ve read to them the Maurice Sendack classic picture book. They love it, and so do I. They’d sit attentively through Goodnight Moon, but they’d squeal “Let the wild rumpus start!” whenever we’d journey with Max to the place of the wild things.

Children, it turns out, aren’t as naive about evil as we assume they are. Children of every culture, and in every place, seem to have a built-in craving for monsters and dragons and “wild things.” The Maurice Sendak book appeals to kids because it tells them something about what they intuitively know is true. The world around them is scary. There’s a wildness out there. The Sendak book shows the terror of a little boy who is frightened by his own lack of self-control, and who conquers it through self-control, by becoming king of all the wild things.

The Sendak book, with its muted words but fantastic drawings, achieves this sense of wonder and wildness. The movie doesn’t. That’s because the movie tames the wild things too much. It’s not that they’re too scary for children. It’s that they’re not believable as scary. The dialogue sounds like it was lifted from an old episode of Thirtysomething, as the beasts talk through their psychodramas and jealousies and interpersonal offenses with one another. Kids will be entertained because the special effects are good. But they won’t “get it” deep inside like they do the book.

I’m amazed though by the way some Christians react to things like this. They furrow their brow because the Max character screams at this mother, and bites her, even though this is hardly glorified in the movie. They wag their heads at how “dark” the idea of this wild world is. Of course it is “dark.” The universe is dark; that’s why we need the Light of Galilee.

Where the Wild Things Are isn’t going to be a classic movie the way it is a classic book. But the Christian discomfort with wildness will be with us for a while. And it’s the reason too many of our children find Maurice Sendak more realistic than Sunday school.

Too many of our Bible study curricula for children declaw the Bible, excising all the snakes and dragons and wildness. We reduce the Bible to a set of ethical guidelines and a text on how gentle and kind Jesus is. The problem is, our kids know there are monsters out there. God put that awareness in them. They’re looking for a sheep-herding dragon-slayer, the One who can put all the wild things under His feet.

Your kids might be bored by the Wild Things movie. They won’t be bored by the Wild Things book. It’s their story, and mine. But read them the story of Max and his monsters, and then show them the Story they were knit together to love.

And let the wild rumpus start."

This post was published on Monday, October 19, 2009 at www.russellmoore.com.


get excited...MSH posts!

I'm so sorry I have not been blogging as much as I would like to lately. I've been overloaded with reading, classes, work at Loft, and Mid-terms. Nights have not been pretty around here.

With that being said, I would like to make it pretty here...on my blog. So, I've decided to let My Sweet, Sweet Husband (MSH) answer some questions so you can get to know him. After all, you hear from me all the time, and I think it's time you get to know my husband, my leader, my confidant, my companion, and my best friend, Mathew Christopher Alexander.

1. How old are you?

As I am typing this, I am 23 years old. However, I turn 24 on November 6.

2. Summarize the story of when you met Whitney, and how you asked her out, dated her, proposed to her, and married her.

I have some pretty early memories of Whitney from being in the youth group together at FBC Boaz, then we providentially ran into each other while working camp a few times. We officially "re-met" (our preferred nomenclature) during Thanksgiving break of 2007 at JaMoka's Coffee Co. in Boaz, AL. Once again, clearly by the providence of God, Whit came to the coffee shop that night (it was out of her way), and even more serendipitous was that she even came in. However, a mutual friend (Chris Evelsizer, to whom I am forever indebted and thankful) called her as she was going through the drive-thru. She came in, we struck up a conversation, talked for an hour. After she left I sent her a text message which included some smoooooove lines: "It was good seeing you tonight. We should do it on purpose sometime." After that, I went home and talked to my dad about seeing her. I said, "Dad I am not sure why I never asked Whitney Walker out on a date." He proceeded to berate me for days over why I was such a chicken.
I went back to Mobile, and contacted Whitney every day until Christmas break, when we went on our first date. (December 21, PF Chang's, Birmingham) I told her I wanted her to be my girlfriend that night, and I asked her to marry me on March 31, 2008. We were married on August 30, 2008. To this day an infamous Clint Pressley-ism, "The Steamroll," is applied to our pre-marriage relationship. (Whitney even bought me a toy steamroller!) In reality, she steamrolled me! I could not leave the woman alone! I was smitten, and it was quite obvious to all who knew me. I still cannot believe she married me. Once again, this is chalked up to God's providential grace.

3. Why does your name only have 1 "t"?

My paternal grandfather, Winford Alexander, died when my dad was 8 years old. My grandmother later remarried to a man named Gaines Mathews. My name is Mathew in honor of them. (Whitney and I, God willing, will have a son named Winford "Ford" Alexander.)
*For the haters out there, Mathew is a time-honored name, as exemplified by Civil War photographer Mathew Brady.

4. What are you three most favorite books?

Knowing God by J.I. Packer
Future Grace by John Piper
Everything I have ever read by Carl Henry

[I love fiction too! Especially dystopian novels (i.e., Bradbury, Orwell, Huxley), Flannery O'Connor, Faulkner, Percy, etc.]

These books have shaped my sanctification and Christian mind more than any others.
(Favorite, in this context has amounted to the most influential, Christian, non-fiction books I have read.)

5. What do you like most that Whitney cooks?

Taco Soup, Chocolate Chip Cookies, White Chocolate Pound Cake, Roast and Mashed Potatoes, etc. Whitney maintains a varied menu, so I just really love her cooking in general. Her commitment to that means the world to me.

6. If you could live anywhere in the world, where would you live?

The Gulf Coast of Alabama: preferably in a historical home in Mobile, or in Fairhope or Magnolia Springs.

7. Where do you see yourself in 10 years?

Married to a wonderful wife, raising a houseful of children to be godly men and women, and serving the Lord as faithfully as possible in whatever capacity He sees fit. I love the local church, and I love the mission of Christian higher education; therefore, I can see myself in either of those contexts serving the Lord as a very happy man.

8. What is your fondest memory?

In all honesty, my wedding day was fantastic because it was such a collision of so many aspects of our lives, which eventually faded into a fantastic honeymoon, celebrating God's act in forming a new family. It is a fascinating thing, and it has radically changed my life for the (much) better.

9. Who do you consider to be your hero?

My Dad has always been, and by God's grace will always be my hero. He has had an incalculable influence on my life. He is a very busy man, but has never used that as an excuse to neglect his family. He also taught me to be funny. And opinonated.
Also, two other men have had a huge impact on my life. My youth minister Kevin Wilburn continues to be a steady voice and awesome example to me.
Also, my pastor Clint Pressley is one of my closest friends, and has taught me so much about what it means to honor Christ with my life. He has taken more chances with me than what most would consider reasonable, which I will always be grateful for.

Also, from afar, the thought and lives of Dr. Albert Mohler and Dr. Russell Moore have influenced my greatly. Before my conversion I attended a conference here at Southern where they both preached. I have oftened listened to all of their sermons from that weekend again, just to be reminded of how God used that weekend in my life. From that point forward I had a great respect and admiration for both of them.

10. What is your biggest problem you are facing right now in your life?

All of my problems stem from my idolatrous and wicked heart, so pride and anger rear their ugly heads quite often. Also, I struggle to make the most of my time with a pretty busy schedule, which boils back down to what my heart is worshipping. When I worship Mat, my time is about me. When Christ is in His rightful place in my heart I seek to use my time for His glory. Simple enough on a questionnaire, but not so easy in practice.

11. What is one quick, funny story about your high school years?

I was around some of the funniest people I have ever met during my high school years, which makes this tough. One of my favorite things was seceding from the junior class because our homecoming float idea, "Send a Horde of Ninjas to the Aggies" was unfairly rejected. The Junior Class Confederacy, amongst many other antics, built its own float in my dad's barn. The homecoming parade was canceled due to weather that year, but the skies were blue come parade time.

12. Describe yourself in three words.

Alpha-Male, Jackhammer, Insatiable

13. Whitney says you have funny quirks. What are some of them?

I am really funny about clothes. By funny I mean picky.
I am very odd when it comes to the television I watch. I love infomercials, and I hate the news.

I have a very strange, complex sense of humor. I usually have three or four layers to peel back before a joke makes sense.
I am really bad at whistling, riding bikes (however, contrary to popular belief, I am able to ride one), tying shoelaces, multiplication tables, and any other basic, rudimentary skill that everyone should have.
I get extraordinarily nervous before I preach to the tune of an upset stomach.
I drive slow in town because I enjoy a leisurely drive.

14. Give a bit of advice to women who are married.

Read Elisabeth Elliot's "Let me be a Woman" (I have never read it, but Whitney has and everything she has told me about it is awesome) and heed the admonition of Scripture instead of the feminist spirit of the age. When you honor and respect your husband, it is because you are honoring and respecting Christ. (Ephesians 5)

15. Tell us something about something that we have not already asked you about.

My favorite bands include, but are certainly not limited to: Wilco, The Avett Brothers, Ryan Adams, DMB, My Morning Jacket, and Yonder Mountain String Band. However, I have been listening to the Allman Brothers while completing this survey.

I miss the people and staff of Dauphin Way Baptist Church, Moe's BBQ, seafood, and the old Southern feel of Mobile the most.

I am interested in the Civil War, History, Philosophy, and Literature.

I am a graduate of the University of Mobile, an M.Div student at the Southern Baptist Theological seminary, an intern in Dr. Mohler's office, a sales associate at Brooks Brothers, and attend Highview Baptist Church, where we have an awesome Sunday school class, Kingdom First.

Let me also say that I miss my family greatly. I have already mentioned my dad, but I also have a faithful mom who has prayed for me incessantly for my entire life. I also have two beautiful sisters who I know love me greatly, one of whom is married to my fantastic brother-in-law, and mother to my two bright, funny nephews. I also miss my mother-in-law, who dispels all mother-in-law horror stories in the greatest way possible.



and the winner is...

The winner from my very first blog giveaway is...

Anna LeMay (@quixoticantics)!!

Anna and I are cyberspace friends. (And yes, I believe you can have friends you will probably never meet in real life...ever. But who knows, right?) We met this past summer when I was doing an on-line Bible study through Beth Moore's LPM Blog. I love my bloggy friends! (Anna-- you're prizes will go out this week. Thanks for sending me your address already!)

Thanks to everyone who entered. I think 53 is a great turnout for a first giveaway. And keep watching my blog...there might just be another giveaway soon!


marriage supper of the Lamb

"Then I heard what seemed to be the voice of a great multitude, like the roar of many waters and like the sound of mighty peals of thunder, crying out, "Hallelujah!For the Lord our God the Almighty reigns. 7Let us rejoice and exult and give him the glory, for the marriage of the Lamb has come, and his Bride has made herself ready; 8 it was granted her to clothe herself with fine linen, bright and pure"—

for the fine linen is the righteous deeds of the saints.

9And the angel said to me, "Write this: Blessed are those who are invited to the marriage supper of the Lamb." And he said to me, "These are the true words of God." 10Then I fell down at his feet to worship him, but he said to me, "You must not do that! I am a fellow servant with you and your brothers who hold to the testimony of Jesus. Worship God." For the testimony of Jesus is the spirit of prophecy."

-Revelation 19:6-10

One afternoon a few weeks ago, Mat came home as I was in the kitchen cooking supper. We were both talking about the events of the day and whatnot-- both of us were just having a wonderful time catching up after a long day of being apart. At some point, and I wish I could remember the context to give you a more clear picture of what went on here, Mat turned to me and said, "Hey Whitney, know what I was thinking about today?"

"What, babe?" I said.

"The Marriage Supper of the Lamb," he replied.

Cool, I thought. But Mat went on...

"And do you know what I thought about when I thought about the Marriage Supper of the Lamb?" he said to me.

"No, what?" I said.

"I thought, I really hope I get to sit by Whitney," he replied.

And then, my heart melted. It absolutely melted. I...am...blessed.

Sometimes, it's really hard being married. Sometimes, it's really REALLY hard being married. Mat doesn't put his boxers in the hamper before he gets in the shower. Mat likes the toilet paper coming under, not over like I do. Mat hates beans in chili, and I love beans in chili. Mat loves to listen to music while we study, and I abhor it. Mat likes whole bean coffee freshly ground, and I hate grinding beans in the morning. You get the picture.

And sometimes, I like being married. And other times still, I love being married.

But always always, I love being married to Mat. And it's not just because he tells me he wants to sit by me at the Marriage Supper of the Lamb...it's because of that reason and 438,972,016 more and counting. I'm so amazingly blessed by Jesus Christ that He has given me this earthly marriage to create a picture of His Marriage to His Church. How blessed! What a privilege! What an honor!

And, even though Mat and I will never know while we are here on this side of the Kingdom if we will get to sit by each other at the Marriage Supper, it is comforting to know that while I go through this life, I have a companion and a life-long best friend. Again, what a comfort given to me by our great God!

And how I anxiously await getting to be at the Marriage Supper where the Bride of Christ will be ready to be presented to Him-- dressed in fine white linen. (And who knows?!? You might just be sitting across from me and Mat at the supper!!)