good is the enemy of great

I recently subscribed to Simple Marriage, a blog that gives marriage advice. I came upon a great article there called, "A Good Marriage is the Enemy of a Great Marriage."

Oh, how true.

Go read the article here.

In the article, it tells you 5 simple ways to go from good to great. They are::

1. Read books. There are some tremendous resources that will help improve your relationship and life. While many of the books shouldn’t be taken hook, line, and sinker (except of course A Simple Marriage, wink), there are usually some great nuggets and ideas that can be applied to your situation.

2. Read blogs. You obviously already have a jump on many people because you’re reading Simple Marriage. But there are many other great sites that will help as well (here’s a list of 20, plus you can check out the ones on this top 10 list). The greatest thing about blogs is you can do more than just read, you can join in discussions with other readers in the comments or you can join a community and talk over life and marriage more.

3. Disconnect and connect. There are many people who believe in the power of the “date nights.” I like the idea as well, although I will add that you don’t have to find babysitters, get out of the house and go somewhere together. Steal time together after the kids go to bed. Play a game. Watch a movie. Head to the bedroom and lock the door. Whatever you do, do it together. No phone. No work. No kids. You can find time to connect at home if you look for it.

4. Find a marriage retreat or seminar. There are many churches and organizations that offer marriage retreats or seminars. I’ve been to several. Some are good, some are not. But like the marriage and relationship books out there, all of them have some nuggets to offer. If nothing else, you get time together while you’re there. In fact, if there’s enough interest, I say let’s all head to the Caribbean some time soon for a 3 – 4 day Simple Marriage Getaway. Any one else?

5. Share marriage with others. Live life with other people. Find other couples to hang out with. Go to dinner. Laugh. Tell stories. In other words, share your life with them. Everything is so much better when shared with others.

(I cannot tell you how much number 5 has helped Mat and me. We have gotten to know some wonderful married (and single!) people here at Southern, and God has used them in mighty ways in our lives. I am so thankful for our new friends. They are irreplaceable in our lives!)

Over the past few weeks, I think Mat and I have begun to make the long transition from good to great. And I'm so glad, too. Mat and I have great blessings in each other. Our marriage is good. Mat is good. Life is good.

God is great.

I've been blessed countless ways in my life through so many different people. Mat, however, is a different kind of blessing. He brings things to my life no one else can. He is the one family member I got to pick. And wow-- I certainly out-did myself.

Mat is my first and foremost ministry. He is my companion. He is my confidant. He is my protector. He is my first call. He is the love of my life. He is the only person I know who can make me laugh so hard I hurt. He is, without a doubt, my favorite person on earth. He is my very best friend.

He is my world and everything in it.

And I'm so thankful God sent him to me. I'm so thankful we get to just live life together. And I cannot wait to find out what all our lives entail.

My advice to you? Seek the great. Don't settle for the good. God never intended for life to just be "good." He wants your life to be GREAT. So seek the GREAT. Look for the GREAT in everything.

"I came so they can have real and eternal life, more and better life than they ever dreamed of." -Jesus, John 10:10

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